How to plan your wedding during COVID-19
So you've spent months planning your dream wedding but now - COVID-19! If you’ve been faced with the decision to reschedule or cancel your 2020 wedding, you’re not alone. We know it doesn’t make it any easier, but we have spoken with countless couples and they're all in the same boat!
First of all, you’re completely justified in feeling the myriad of emotions you’re likely feeling. Sad, angry, frustrated and probably many others. It’s not selfish; essentially, you need to grieve the loss of a very important piece of your life. But then, you need to shake it off because it’s just temporary. Try to remind yourself that you will get your day...eventually.
If you're among the majority who still want to go ahead, the best thing you can do is to be flexible, patient, stay positive and keep planning.
BE FLEXIBLE WHEN RESCHEDULING
Look at your contracts and know what your options are regarding cancellations and rescheduling. Also know that many vendors are being more flexible than what was initially agreed upon in writing. When trying to reschedule, understand that many other couples are trying to do the same, so have a few preferred, new dates in mind. And, if you’re open to a weekday or Sunday event, you’ll have less competition.
BE PATIENT AND KIND
The last thing you want to do is to be rude or insensitive to any of your vendors, many of which may be worried about the longevity of their businesses. The best thing you can do is to work together to reschedule vs. cancel. And come to terms with the fact that your ability to reschedule may not be an option for a while.
The sad reality is that some of us are losing very important people in our lives, including partners of many years. If you still have your loved one by your side, be grateful that you have a lifetime of love and laughter ahead. If you can get through wedding replanning during a pandemic together, signs are pretty good that you have made the right partner choice AND you will be able to weather the inevitable ups and downs of married life.
Other potential positives during a wedding redo:
- You get to fix your mistakes - If you were further along in the planning process, you likely made some mistakes. Now you can do it right on your second try.
- You can possibly get a better date - Maybe you missed out on your preferred day, season, etc. the first time? Here’s your chance to snag it on round two.
- You can save money - now you have time to save for an better event or honeymoon. Or, opt for a smaller event and pocket the extra cash.
- You can meet your fitness goals. If you can refrain from quarantine binge-snacking (guilty), now’s the opportunity to get those toned arms and tight abs you wanted to show off on your big day.
You know you’re still going to go ahead with a traditional affair, but you don’t know when. No problem! Here are a few things to consider:
- Send out ‘change the date’ cards - let your guests know that you've rescheduled your wedding.
- Create or update your wedding website - an easy way to keep your guests up to date on all the changes that will be happening over the next few months.
- Create your registry - many retail stores may be closed, but you can still build your registry online and/or opt for completely online registries .
- Purchase your wedding bands - now’s the perfect time to consider ordering from a business that handcrafts their items vs. a jewel le ry chain or re-seller of mass-produced rings. When you plan ahead, you have more time to find or design the perfect ring(s). High quality, made-to-order wedding bands like the ones offered from us at SMITH Jewellery usually have a 4-6 week turn-around time.
- Remember to follow the Government Guidelines - If you have your date and venue set, pay attention to what the experts are saying and heed their advice. Pay close attention to what venues are allowed to do and how they can make sure their guests are safe, the last thing you want in your celebration is to make a lot of people sick.
- Expect a Smaller Guest Count - It’s important to be aware of your guests’ travel plans, and understand if some guests choose not to attend the wedding or any pre-wedding event.
- Design With What's Available - The coronavirus may hinder your vendor’s ability to deliver certain items.
- Source Local Goods - Supporting smaller local businesses at this time will really them stay afloat and our economy. Also, it’ll guarantee you will have your goods on your special day.
So you're over talking about weddings and just want to marry your fiancé, here are some alternative ideas
- Consider a Virtual Wedding - hire an officiant and have an intimate living room wedding.
- Have a court Wedding - one of our couples is having a court wedding now and and will have their ‘actual’ wedding on their first year anniversary.
In the end, whatever you decide to do for your special day, what really matters is that you’re surrounded by the people you love most right now!
For national help and health updates check: https://sacoronavirus.co.za/